The following was written in answer to a 15-year-old girl¡¯s question£¬ ¡°How can I prepare myself for a fulfilling life?¡±
¡¡¡¡I am me.
¡¡¡¡In all the world£¬ there is no one else exactly like me. There are people who have some parts like me but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore£¬ everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone choose it.
¡¡¡¡I own everything about me -- my body£¬ including everything it does; my mind£¬ including all my thoughts and ideas; my eyes£¬ including the images of all they behold; my feelings£¬ whatever they might be -- anger£¬ joy£¬ frustration£¬ love£¬ disappointment£¬ excitement; my mouth and all the words that come out of it -- polite£¬ sweet and rough£¬ correct or incorrect; my voice£¬ loud and soft; all my actions£¬ whether they be to others or myself.
¡¡¡¡I own my fantasies£¬ my dreams£¬ my hopes£¬ my fears.
¡¡¡¡I own all my triumphs and successes£¬ all my failures and mistakes.
¡¡¡¡Because I own all of me£¬ I can become intimately acquainted with me in all my parts. I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.
¡¡¡¡I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me£¬ and other aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself£¬ I can courageously and hopefully look for the solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.
¡¡¡¡However I look and sound£¬ whatever I say and do£¬ and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is me. This is authentic and represents where I am at that moment in time.
¡¡¡¡When I review later how I looked and sounded£¬ what I said and did£¬ and how I thought and felt£¬ some parts may turn out to be unfitting. I can discard that which is unfitting and keep that which proved fitting£¬ and invent something new for that which I discarded.
¡¡¡¡I can see£¬ hear£¬ feel£¬ think£¬ say and do. I have the tools to survive£¬ to be close to others£¬ to be productive£¬ to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
¡¡¡¡I own me and therefore I can engineer me. I am me and I am okay.
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